Before he became known as one of the most amazing actors in history, Steve Buscemi was a firefighter for New York’s Engine 55. Upon the collapse of the World Trade Center towers, Buscemi dug out is old gear and volunteered to rescue the trapped and recover the deceased. It’s inspiring to know that a person who could do nothing and take no flack for his choice decided to do everything he could because he knew that there were family members and friends who needed closure, and he knew that the sooner the job was done, the sooner an entire nation could begin to heal. He was skilled and equipped to make it happen, and he also had a caring, genuine, humanitarian heart.
On this anniversary of the attacks, I don’t want to rile everyone up with the “America! F**k, yeah!” attitude. I just want to remind people that, at one time during my lifespan, the citizens of the USA were truly united. Not because of patriotism or politics…but because many were devastated, and the rest had reached such a deep level of empathy that they could be nothing but helpful and supportive of their neighbors. For once in my lifetime, humankind was something to be proud of. Why’d we forget so quickly?
Steve Buscemi is my cousin’s husband’s sister’s husband’s brother.
I have no idea what that means, but he used to babysit my cousins when they were little. Whatchu gon’ do bout that.
"Date someone who is interested in you. I don’t mean someone who thinks you’re cute or funny. I mean someone who wants to know every insignificant detail about you. Someone who wants to read every word you write. Someone who wants to hear every note of your favourite song, and watch every scene of your favourite movie. Someone who wants to find every scar upon your body, and learn where each one came from. Someone who wants to know your favourite brand of toothpaste, and which quotes resonate deep inside your bones when you hear them. There is a difference between attraction and interest. Find the person who wants to learn every aspect of who you are, and hold onto them."
I blinked one day and when I opened my eyes, it was normal to have an American army battling Americans on American streets. No one even calls it a war. But it is.
Don’t forget this crazy shit actually happened.
Don’t forget this shit is STILL happening
DATING TIP: Hold the door for your date. Rip the door off its hinges. Use the door as a weapon to fight off other men. Establish dominance.
In fact a mature person does not fall in love, he rises in love. The word ’fall’ is not right. Only immature people fall; they stumble and fall down in love. Somehow they were managing and standing. They cannot manage and they cannot stand – they find a woman and they are gone, they find a man and they are gone. They were always ready to fall on the ground and to creep. They don’t have the backbone, the spine; they don’t have that integrity to stand alone.
A mature person has the integrity to be alone. And when a mature person gives love, he gives without any strings attached to it: he simply gives. And when a mature person gives love, he feels grateful that you have accepted his love, not vice versa. He does not expect you to be thankful for it – no, not at all, he does not even need your thanks. He thanks you for accepting his love. And when two mature persons are in love, one of the greatest paradoxes of life happens, one of the most beautiful phenomena: they are together and yet tremendously alone; they are together so much so that they are almost one. But their oneness does not destroy their individuality, in fact, it enhances it: they become more individual.
Two mature persons in love help each other to become more free. There is no politics involved, no diplomacy, no effort to dominate. How can you dominate the person you love? Just think over it. Domination is a sort of hatred, anger, enmity. How can you think of dominating a person you love? You would love to see the person totally free, independent; you will give him more individuality. That’s why I call it the greatest paradox: they are together so much so that they are almost one, but still in that oneness they are individuals. Their individualities are not effaced – they have become more enhanced. The other has enriched them as far as their freedom is concerned.
Immature people falling in love destroy each other’s freedom, create a bondage, make a prison. Mature persons in love help each other to be free; they help each other to destroy all sorts of bondages. And when love flows with freedom there is beauty. When love flows with dependence there is ugliness.